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In this post I would like to discuss other issues connected with adoption, more in the context of Indian milieu.

Who are the ones who generally adopt a child?

Married couples who have not had a child of their own, due to various reasons, who now want to go in for adoption.

Married couples who have their biological child/children and yet desire to expand their family through adoption.

Many couples these days want to remain childless by choice, go in for adoption, regardless of their fertility factor, to give a loving and caring home to a child in need.

Those who are not married, but are desirous of mothering or fathering a child can also adopt. Previously single men were barred from adopting a child, but now it is allowed.

There are certain conditions to be satisfied for adopting a child:

The couple should have been married for 5 years or more to go in for adoption.

The couple needs to have a reasonable income to be able to bring up a child.

The couple should have a good health status.

The couple should be free of any criminal records.

The composite age of the couple (i.e, their ages put together) should not exceed 90 to adopt a young child or an infant. And the age of each of them should not be above 45 years.

In case their composite age exceeds 90, they may go in for adoption of an older child.

Singles who wish to adopt should be between the ages of 30 and 45 years.

Singles should have a family supporting them in this regard.

Age difference between the single person and the child needs to be atleast 21.

A girl child will not be given in adoption to a single male person. 

A child will not be given for adoption to same sex couples.

Who are the children that are available for adoption?

First of all the child should be legally free for adoption.

Those who have been surrendered by biological parents or by the unwed mother- due to various kinds of prevailing life situations that make it difficult for them to bring up the child.
In cases of surrendered children, the agency generally gives the parent/s two months for a change of mind. In the meanwhile they are offered counselling services to be able to think of alternatives for the care and maintenance of the child.

Abandoned children found by a third party or police or by the child welfare committees or orphaned child found by anybody.

Destitute children – those who may run away from home and reach these institutions through police or through the child welfare committees or those who may voluntarily join the institution.

In the above cases the police do their best to trace the parents and send the children back home. If they can not be traced, then they may be placed for adoption. In case of older child, its consent is to be taken orally and in writing before placing for adoption.

In case of siblings, twins and triplets, care is taken not to separate the children and to give them to a single family in adoption.

Which is the adoption regulating body in India?

C A R A  Central Adoption Resource Agency is the governing body in our country that regulates all matters involved in adoption. Its main objective is to find a loving and caring home for every orphan / destitute / surrendered child.

There are In-country adoptions and also Inter-country adoptions done through this Body. Usually before considering a child for Inter-country adoption, it is first considered for adoption into an Indian family residing in India.

All adoption placement agencies in India need to be registered under C A R A and they must follow the guidelines set up by the State or Central Government. They are called Licenced Adoption Placement Agencies or L A P A.

Procedure for Adoption:

Those desirous of adopting a child need to first register themselves in any of the registered Adoption Agencies, with documents like Income Certificate, Marriage Certificate, Proof of Residence, health certificate, photographs of the couple, reference letters by relatives/friends who can vouch for the suitability of the couple to take care of the child and other such documents.

A Home-study is done by a social worker appointed by the Agency. The social worker will check the credentials and the suitability of the Parents desirous of adoption. A Home-study Report is prepared and submitted to the Agency.

Pre-adoption counselling is done to apprise them of all the sensibilities involved in an adoption.

Then the child is shown to them keeping in mind the description desired by the propective parents. Whenever possible, care is also taken to match the child’s features as close as possible to those of the parents so that there will not be too much of a mis-match and the child can gel well with other members of the family.

In case of an older child above 6 years, the child’s consent is also taken for adoption into this family.

Now petition will be filed in the court for obtaining orders for adoption from the court. This may take 6 to 8 weeks.

In case of a surrendered child, the surrendering document would have been signed by the parents or the unwed mother or in case of an unwed minor mother, other responsible family member’s signature is taken. These documents are kept in a sealed cover and given to the judge for his /her perusal. This document is kept by the agency in all confidence and can be shown to the child only after attaining the age of 18, if he/she desires to know this information.

There are three different laws that govern the adoption procedure and the adoptive parents are given information about these laws and they can decide upon the law by which the adoption that they go in would be governed.

Follow up visits by the social worker is done up to a year to check how the child is being brought up. In case the parents require post-adoption counselling on any matter, that would be available through the social worker. The visits by the social worker ends once the agency feels satisfied with the adjustment happening between the child and the parent/s.

The costs involved:

Cost of Registration is Rs. 200/-

Cost of preparation of Home-study report: Rs. 1,000/-

Maintanance charges of the child in the institution from the time of its admission : not exceeding Rs. 15,000/-, calculated as Rs. 50/- per day

Extra charges of treatment for any illnesses or hospitalization charges as produced through the Bills.

Conclusion: 

Here concludes my post on adoption and related issues. I have tried my best to give you all very authentic information in all the posts based on my own professional experience and the talks that I have had with adoptive parents and adopted children. I am open to corrections and progressive thoughts on adoption.

The issues that I have discussed in these posts are the ones that come up during counselling sessions. There can be many adoptive parents and birth parents and also adopted children who may not have experienced these issues and who may be perfectly adjusted and totally comfortable with the adoption undergone and who may have never felt the need for any kind of counselling. Hats off to these people. I am sure they can be very good confidants and counsellors to those who may require help in sorting out some of these issues and these well adjusted people and children can be of very big help to the support groups of adoptive parents and adopted children to motivate them to move on with life, enjoying every moment of parenting and every moment of growing up in an adoptive family.

I once again wish to thank the members of Sudatta Organization, Bangalore, for giving talks at our Training Centre in Malleshwaram to spread awareness about adoption. Sudatta is a self-support group of adoptive parents and adopted children in Bangalore. It was initiated first at Chennai. They have their branches in other cities of India, like Mangalore, Pune, Coimbatore. More about Sudatta here.

I request the readers to please state your own experiences as somebody who has been touched by adoption in any way in your lives. That would make the posts even more enriching.

Thanks to all of you for being with me in these posts.

For further details on adoption, please visit:

http://www.cara.nic.in/

email to C A R A: cara@bol.net.in

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