It has shocked all of us to learn that shoot outs have started happening in Indian schools! It saddens me very much that school students, instead of enjoying learning and playing with each other, have started killing each other! what has gone wrong and where???
The two boys who shot their classmate dead have confessed that they have no remorse about their deed as the other boy was bullying them to no end. That it was brought to the school authority’s notice, but went ignored, made the boys take this extreme step!
Why do children bully others? We understand that the bullies are themselves victims first and then they perpetrate it on some body weaker than them. Many a times, we find the elders agressing on the children severely, disproportionate to the mistakes that they may commit. Parents or teachers do not always give explanation to the child why he/she was punished. The elders, most often target the children to vent out their own frustrations caused by various life events. This kind of continued targetting makes the child very hard within. Also, the increased depiction of violence on TVs and Computer/Video games make the children lose sensitivity to others’ pain. They look upon violence as bravery and fun! Their values get mixed up and there is no one to give them proper guidance. The one who is severely punished at home may look out for someone who is weaker than them, who can easily become their target. In the current case, the children decided to take the law into their own hands to punish the bully. This chain continues and many children become emotionally scarred for life.
Here both the victim of bullying and the bully himself need counselling. We need to find out what is bringing about such a behaviour in the child. Who could be causing it – at home or at school or outside? It is very necessary that every school has an inhouse counsellor who can talk to children whenever they are disturbed by any issue. Just listening patiently to their grievances lifts the burden off their hearts. Counsellors can remain objective and non-judgemental about any of the confessions people make. Counsellors keep up the confidentiality of the matter. They try to help the client sort out his/her emotions and help them to think in positive direction. They teach assertive skills to the victims to stand up for their rights. This can go a long way in reducing many of the ills that are cropping up among student community.
Well, I read the same about bullying in Times of India (or was it Hindustan Times?) It said most of the bullying these days students face (from peers and friends) is psychological. That needs attention from their parents and they need counseling.
A bullying could be as simple as someone ensuring no one talks to the topper girl. Or not including in games or being rude. But parents need to spend time with their wards to be aware of that.
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